is Angela and I am a mother who experienced the life and
death of twin girls in 1979. I was 28 weeks pregnant and
right up till I gave birth at 28 weeks there were 2 heartbeats
recorded. Sadly one of the twins died, I was told that the
2nd twin was stillborn. I asked to see her and that she
was to be given the first rights as I am a catholic, both
these requests had been refused. When I asked why they said
because she was born dead. I was so confused at the time
of the birth I had just experienced a birth but also a loss
all at the same time, the surviving twin was kept in the
neo natal unit she weighed 2 pound 6 ounces.
I myself was placed on a ward with mothers
and their babies I was so bemused the words "why me"
kept echoing through my mind. Suddenly I am greeted with
the hospital informing me that they can bury my baby for
a fee. I had only given birth a few hour earlier.
I couldn’t think straight my emotions
where all over the place, I didn’t know if I was crying
for the surviving twin or the dead twin or me. My husband
came to the hospital that evening and he was told he couldn’t
see our baby either, but my husband took the details to
the registry office to register the birth. He was told that
we can only register the live birth but with the stillborn
twin would wouldn’t be given a birth certificate or
a death certificate, we can only have an entry of stillbirth
certificate. This had no baby’s name on it, all it
had was where the stillbirth occurred and that it was a
female and who the parents were and what our occupation
was at the time.
No real recognition for my baby daughter,
they didn’t even indicate on the surviving twins birth
certificate that she was one of twins. It was indeed as
if my lost baby had never existed. This is a law that my
campaign is fighting to have changed to allow the rights
of the stillborn children to have proper recognition of
All parents who experience a stillbirth
should be given a proper birth certificate because we did
give birth to that baby .
Regardless of how long ago the stillbirth
occurred it still hurts, they say time is a great healer
but this is not the case. As any mother and father who experience
the heartaches of stillbirths time does not heal and no
matter how many children you go on and have after the feeling
of loss and emptiness does not go away.
So my site is a place where all parents
or siblings who have suffered this heartache can come to
and talk to others who understand their pain because nobody
understand it more than parents who have been through it